Thursday, December 29, 2011
The Balancing Act
As we mature in this industry we begin to see things for what they REALLY are yet we still try to do the impossible. We try to be all things to all people. We know what we want but somewhere along the way we have always allowed the needs and wants of others to sidetrack our visions. We do this in an attempt to be unselfish or sometimes out of some weird guilt. Yes guilt. Let me explain. For a musician to be good at his/her craft, it takes long hours of personal dedication. All these ours of being alone and focusing only on what WE want is what has helped us become who we are but there are consequences. All of those hours of practice and dedication to self left some of us a bit socially challenged. (LOL) I mean we find it hard to maintain relationships with people that either don't do what we do or don't serve us any purpose in terms of reaching our goals. So once we realize this we swing to the other end of the pendulum by giving too much of ourselves to others and denying our heart. We become co dependent feeling like we are responsible for saving the world whether it's trying to save some personal relationship or trying convince other musicians how great they are. What I've learned is that we ALL need balance. There is nothing at all wrong with being focused on our goals but it is also OK to relax and have relationships that don't necessarily have anything to do with our career. You would be surprised at how much you learn from people that don't have anything to loose or gain from just being your friend. Balance is also important in helping us keep perspective. We can all sometimes be to close to something to really see the truth. You know, can't see the forest for the trees. Balance helps us breathe and give ourselves a break from self induced stress. It also let's us know that we have no need to feel guilty for our dedication. We just have to make time for other people and things in our lives and demand that those people also value and respect our time and visions. This my friends is the balancing act. Enjoy the journey.
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