Thursday, September 29, 2011
Self Destructive Behavior
I had a talk with an old friend recently about what makes or breaks a career. We both laughed at how most of us blame outside sources for this or that when it's usually all on us. The biggest down fall of over seventy percent of artists and musicians trying to pursue a career is self destructive behavior. I've lived through this with several artists. Another way to look at it is self sabotage. Everyone says they want to make it but few people really BELIEVE they can so they subconsciously create all these obstacles for themselves. In order to succeed at anything you have to really expect it to happen and you have to contribute to it happening. It is important to develop your craft and business skills, that goes without saying but you must also develop sound judgement and discernment skills. Most people self destruct largely because they listen to the wrong people. It's always important to seek relationships with people that will build us up, not tear us down. When forging a career, everything matters from how you carry yourself to who you choose to date. It's not always something YOU do that will bring you down. Hanging in the wrong circle is usually the main culprit in the self destructive cycle because there is no one around to tell you when you are messing up. I've seen it all. I've seen ego destroy a career, I've seen over possessive girlfriends run fans away, I've seen artist blow major financial deals simply because of fear . . . etc. The first thing you need to do is take stock of your true inner goals. If this is what you really want, then anyone in your life that does not contribute to this end MUST GO. The people we associate with represent us as well and those people can make or break us. Now what is self destructive is knowing that a particular relationship is bad for us and our career but we refuse to change it. No one ever said that achieving success would be easy. Sometimes we have to make very hard choices but we have to be willing to walk away from drama, dishonesty or ignorance in order to stay on track. Trust me you will much better off if you just clean house. So take a look at your current situation and see if you are practicing any self destructive behavior. Once you recognize it, just change it and keep moving toward your success. Enjoy the journey.
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